I had some big goals for 2020...
Categories: personal development, connection, self love
When lockdowns began back in March 2020, I struggled just like everyone else with the loss of connection. I was upset that my yoga classes were cancelled; our beaches were closed down; and I didn’t know it would be months before having another massage. In the beginning, I had a hard time not playing the victim. I found myself constantly asking ‘Why is this happening to me?’ or saying ‘I didn’t ask for any of this!’ What I failed to realize was that most of us humans around the world were feeling the exact same way; it wasn’t just me. Over time, with constant personal development and a shift in perspective, I eventually recognized that this was not happening TO ME, but rather FOR ME. So I started asking what were the lessons I could learn from the current situation?
This is what I learned…
- Never take anything for granted ~ Time is so precious and we have no guarantee of tomorrow.
- Live in the moment ~ Take the opportunity to do, see or be, whenever it presents itself. You will never get that moment back.
- Have an outlet ~ It’s important to find a way to get out anger, frustration, creativity or any other type of energy.
- Simplify, rest and relax ~ You don’t always have to be doing something or being busy. It is beneficial to take time to heal and rest.
- Home life is important ~ Make sure you are happy when you are in your home. If not, you need to figure out why ASAP.
- You can always learn more ~ There are always new things to learn. Some new topics I’ve been learning include: yoga and its history, relationships and marriage, cooking new recipes and personal development.
- Don’t be afraid to try new things ~ Those new things may not always be there to try later (or you may not be). Plus what’s the point of life if you aren’t trying new things and growing?
- Getting and staying healthy is imperative ~ Regardless of what happens in your life, your body has to be maintained. You have to eat healthy and nutritious foods, hydrate with lots of water, exercise/move your body in any way you can and stimulate your mind EVERY SINGLE DAY.
Going forward into 2021, I have decided to take what I’ve learned this past year and continue to simplify my life and expectations into one goal — I want to fill my soul! 🥰 Ok. I’ll admit, I totally got this from a movie. If you’ve ever seen the movie Deadpool 2, then you know the taxi driver, Dopinder, stated that he wanted to belong to something.
Dopinder: “I do want to live the dreams, Pool Boy. Taxiing is not as sexy as it looks. I want to fill my…”
Deadpool: “Pockets? What’s your poison? Talk to me Goose.”
Dopinder: “I want to fill my soul. I want to belong to something, like you, Pool sir.”
Deadpool: “Dopinder, you never cease to surprise me. You know, the depth of your heart is extraordinary. We all need a sense of belonging. We all need a genuine sense of home, a place…”
Dopinder: “I want to become a contract killer.”
Now, let me state, I don’t have any interest in becoming a contract killer! 🤣 But I do love the idea of filling my soul! We all want to belong and connect to something. We all want to know we are not alone in going through something. And I’m here to tell you that you are not alone. We are all going through something at any given time and it’s probably more similar than we realize. For me, this blog will help serve as my connection. I want to be able to connect with other people about important topics and discuss various viewpoints. I want to encourage others to keep that thirst for knowledge and constantly want to better themselves. I want to show people what self-love looks like and how they can love themselves too. Ultimately, I want to share the lessons I’ve learned, give back by giving hope to others and be vulnerable enough to talk about the hard stuff.
So I want to invite you to join me on this journey and in filling your soul over this new year. The purpose of filling your soul is to do anything that makes you feel alive, happy, grateful and joyful. It also includes doing those things that scare you. (Back to Deadpool for a moment — do you remember Dopinder’s superpower was? Courage! 😊 That’s what your superpower needs to be too!)
Some ideas of how you can fill your soul…
- Try, create or learn new things 🎉 ~ When you try, create or learn new things, your brain is forced to think differently because it has never seen or done this before. Not only will this create new connections and stronger pathways in our brains, it also stimulates creativity that will rub off in other areas of your life. Soon you’ll start thinking about things in a whole new and different way.
You can try, create or learn things like memory books, photography, writing or journaling, painting or drawing, making a new recipe, singing or playing a new song, sewing, new sports and activities (aerial yoga, SUP yoga, snow tubing, ocean kayak, rollerblade). You can change up your normal routine, stop at a new grocery store, learn about a new topic, explore personal development or read a book.
- Move your body 🏃♀️ ~ I’m going to geek out for a minute to explain this, so bare with me. When you move your body in physical ways, your body releases natural chemicals known as endorphins. These endorphins interact with the receptors in your brain to reduce your perception of pain and trigger a positive feel-good energy. When you don’t move your body on a consistent daily basis, your body won’t produce these endorphins and you may experience more anxiety, depression and moodiness.
You can move your body through dance, yoga, riding your bike or going for a walk or run. You can swim, sing/listen to music, play sports or ground yourself.
- Spend time in nature 🌞~ When you spend time in nature, your body benefits. Nature can make you feel happier, heal your body and help your memory and concentration. Spending time in nature can also prompts weight loss, allow you take in more Vitamin D, reduce your stress levels, strengthen your immune system and brighten your mood.
Try just 15 minutes a day of mediation, laying in the sun, taking a hike, watching or playing with animals, gardening or simple deep breathing,
- Serve somebody else 👫~ When we help other people, it helps to get us out of our own head and turn our focus towards someone else. This makes us feel happy and our body produces endorphins (we all know how important those are). Serving others can be so beneficial to our mental health, our emotional well-being and our self-esteem. Plus, the laws of the universe have shown over and over again that those who serve others are more successful themselves. Remember, life goes where the energy flows.
Go out and volunteer, spend time with kids or the elderly or practice random acts of kindness. You can lend a hand or listen to a friend. Just do something you aren’t focused on yourself.
- Smile 😁~ The mere act of putting a smile on your face can make you feel good. Why? Because smiling releases those happy endorphins (yay!) as well as serotonin and dopamine. These natural chemicals elevate your mood while relaxing your body and even reducing pain.
Spend time smiling everywhere you go – grocery stores, exercising, listening to music or while driving in your car. For bonus points, look into a mirror and smile (this is a judgment-free zone). Try this for two minutes and notice how you feel!
- Clean and declutter ☯️~ Did you know that clutter can actually cause stress and anxiety? Especially when you spend hours trying to find something you need. When you declutter your stuff, you are also decluttering your life. Life is stressful enough; our homes need to be calm, clear and peaceful places for us to recharge.
When you are done decluttering, you have a few options. You can try selling some of your items of value. You can donate items to local shelters or community centers. Or you can trash/burn everything…this is a great way to let the past go!
I hope you join me on this journey! I look forward to hearing all about how you plan to fill your soul! 💛